LDS Gals learning to embrace sexuality

God created our bodies to enjoy sex – what's not to enjoy?

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I am a LDS woman and wife who has learned to love sex and  is learning to embrace my sexuality!

Far too long, for way too many years, I  denied parts of myself!  Several years ago, I made a decision that I would no longer do that!  I am a woman, a wife, and a lover!  God created my body and he created me – all of me!  So why shouldn’t I love my body, and myself – all of me – including my sexual nature!  My sexuality is a part of me, a part that when combined with the other parts of my nature, makes me whole.  It is a part of me that God purposely designed, a part of me that helps bring pleasure, joy, and love into my life  and helps to provide a great blessing to my marriage – when I embrace it properly and use it wisely.  What’s not to love?  So why did it take me so long to figure this out?  Why did I waste so many years denying this beautiful part of me?  Why did I make my husband suffer through years of living in a sexual desert?

I intend to use this blog to share my experiences, my thoughts, about what I have learned and what I am learning.  I hope other women will join me here and share your experiences with learning to embrace your sexuality!  While my journey of acceptance started several years ago –  I still have a ways to go!  It does not matter where you are on your journey – if you are just starting,  if you have been on it a while, if you got off track for awhile and want to get back on your way, and especially if you are a seasoned traveler – come and share so that we can learn from each other and navigate this amazing part of our lives in a way that would please the one who created us!

Men are welcome here also – after all, you are what makes our journey extra special!

Note:  Some of what I post on this blog will come from other posts and comments I wrote on other forums and or blogs.  So it may sound familiar to some of you who have also been on the same forums or blogs.  One of my side purposes of this blog is to pull all of my thoughts together in one place.

4 thoughts on “About

  1. I’ve just scanned and read a little so far, but I like your blog. I’ll be taking a deeper look around soon. Blessings!

    • Thank you! That means a lot to me, since I have been reading your blog for awhile and love it! Your blog’s title is especially awesome and very creative! Keep up the good work. You are an inspiration to me!

  2. Anonymous on said:

    I just found your blog today and am excited to look through it. I love my wife more than anything in this world, but we have lacked an emotional and sexual connection since we were married almost a decade ago. Through recent discussion I’ve learned that she has NO desire to make love. No Libido and that’s it’s been that way our whole marriage. I think both of us would consider ourselves happily married minus the sex part. That hasn’t been a big deal to her, but devastating for me.

    I’m so happy that she was honest with me. She wants to be sexual, but just feels like it’s not meant to be. I’m happy to work together to figure this out. I know she feels terrible about this and I think she’s worried that something is wrong with her and that no woman has zero interest in sex.

    I can’t tell what your experience was, but from the little bit I’ve read it sounds like it may be similar. Would you mind sharing your experience and how you’ve over come it. We need some hope!

    • Welcome Anonymous Dec 10! You are not alone in your struggle, although I know that does not really help. If your wife really does recognize that there is a problem in your marriage and wants to make changes in this area – that is most of the battle. If she does not want to make changes, there is not a lot you can do, except keep trying to motivate her somehow to develop the desire to change. This desire to change has to come from within herself and she has to be willing to do the work necessary. And it does take work – it’s like learning a new language and a new skill. It takes consistent effort, research, and lots of practice for it to feel natural and easy.

      If you do not have the book by Laura Brotherson “And they were not ashamed” (you can find the info listed in resources), I strongly encourage you to get it and start reading it together with your wife. Take it slowly, reading one chapter at a time, discussing each one in depth and work carefully and diligently through the homework assignments. Doing this will help you both start a very constructive dialogue on sex and sexuality. It will also help identify some problem areas and give you tools to correct them. If at the end of going through this book, your wife is still having problems, then you both should seek professional help from a good sex therapist.

      As far as sharing my experience – I purposely have not written it in complete detail on this blog to keep some small bit of privacy (although I do share quite a bit) I also think that sometimes when a person shares their personal experience in detail, others tend to say their experiences are different and so the rest of the things written do not apply to them specifically. Of course every one’s experiences are unique and varied. Hopefully, by sharing some of my experiences without writing too much detail and discussing various topics on sexuality, other LDS women will see a part of themselves and be able to relate to something I write and will be motivated to learn and grow in embracing their sexuality too. While my experiences and my struggles are my own, I think I have a lot in common and can identify in many ways with most LDS women who also struggle with sexuality for whatever reasons.

      Feel free to make comments and ask questions! Good Luck!

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