Just go with it!
Lately, there have been a few times when I really did not feel like or want to have sex when Hubby initiated. In the olden days, my not wanting to have sex would have been a show stopper. Fortunately, I have learned to try to keep an open mind, to just go with it, and to allow whatever happens to happen. Occasionally – my body still does not respond and I don’t get into it physically, however, I enjoy the closeness, giving him pleasure, and laying with him entwined after – and these things make me feel satisfied and content with the encounter. This is not pity sex, or “Fine – just get it over” sex. Instead, I participate with enthusiasm and mental excitement even if I am not feeling physical excitement. I enjoy the sex emotionally and while my body may not respond physically, I still participate because I enjoy my husband and I want him to enjoy me!
Most times, as I relax and go with it, keeping an open mind in allowing my body to feel what it wants to feel, I get really turned on and we end up both having really good sex! The last couple of times when I really really did not feel like having sex, but did anyways, my orgasms turned out to be quite intense – which totally surprised me because of feeling so physically non-sexual and non-interested before.
I talked about desire in women and the need to understand that it does not come first in this post. But even knowing this fact – I am still pleasantly surprised at times how it works.
So, my advice to women continues to be: RELAX – JUST GO WITH IT – AND KEEP YOUR MIND OPEN TO THE POSSIBILITIES! Even if you really really don’t feel like it!!!